Relationship Issues? Maybe it’s Your Conflicting YIN & YANG?!

It is Springtime and there is a feeling in the air of ‘new beginnings’, refreshing the ‘old’, trying something new, cleaning and decluttering; Nature is full of new growth from baby lambs and birds to new leaves and blossoms. This has got me thinking about Yin and Yang, about the attraction between the feminine and the masculine, about the desire to create something new…


Much of my healing work is about relationships, not just between men and women but also between ideas we have about the world and about ourselves. Ill health or relationship difficulties can arise when our beliefs, understandings, thoughts and/or feelings do not agree or how they relate is unclear.

The idea of Yin and Yang is described beautifully in the Tao Te Ching (insert), ancient Classic Chinese Writings dating back to the 6th Century BC, which underpin many ideas in various Eastern Philosophies and have also become very popular in our own culture.

The text talks of ‘the One’, the idea of Wholeness and a Higher Intent driving our existence and that by embodying the Yin (feminine) and Yang (masculine) qualities in ‘ten thousand’ different ways we create ‘forms’ – ideas, activity, aspirations… who we are… our lives. It also talks about ‘achieving harmony’ through ‘Union’, which refers to being able to easily use your own masculine and feminine qualities as needed (whether you are a man or a woman), being empowered enough to be logical, active, hot (passionate) alongside being intuitive and passive (supporting and listening); it is also relevant to being able to create¬†harmonious relationships with others. So can men and women work in harmony with each other? Are men and women treated as equals? Can women be ‘yang’ and men not be threatened and vice versa? Can a woman or a man be ‘passive’ without being seen as ‘weak’ or ‘of no value’? This is still a global work-in-progress obviously! We are all still learning how to empower and harmonise our own Yin and Yang qualities and to value and encourage that in others too. Your Life will show you the qualities you need to develop to achieve harmony… become aware of repetitive events or unresolved issues… try different tactics… become Whole ūüôā

“What is a Real Woman?” ??

Came across this article about ‘Real Men’ and was wondering why we don’t see similar ones for ‘Real Women’ … ?

What underpins how we relate to the World and in our close relationships is our inner definitions of what it is to be a ‘man’ or ‘woman’.¬† These have grown over evolutionary times and contain deeply embedded ways of being, growing all the time. The above article explains a strong, grounded, confident, reassured man. So if you were talking about a strong, grounded, confident, reassured woman – would the article be the same?¬† If Men and Women were both truly empowered, would such an article be written like this at all?¬† Maybe or maybe not?

Both ‘Men’ and ‘Women’ have pressures on them to be ‘this’ and ‘that’… equality and inner growth is not just for one or the other.¬† There is much said in the Spiritual Media about the growth in the Divine Feminine at this time in evolution but this does not relate just to Women. Men are part of this picture too and are also relearning ways of relating… hence the above article.¬† The growth in the Divine Feminine is about Re-Empowering Women AND Men.¬† It is about rising above the Energy Systems that create our relationships – Men are locked into these just as much as Women.¬† It is about establishing empowered personal spaces where choices can be made by Women AND by Men, in the moment, for the highest benefit to all concerned, bringing about a joyful resolution for all.

Ask yourself ‘What does a relationship look like between 2 empowered people?’… Are there rigid stereotypical roles? I am starting to appreciate that it goes beyond that… When 2 empowered people or a group of empowered people work together, there seems to be a flow much like waves in an Ocean… up and down, sometimes swirling, sometimes calm, sometimes rough but always there, supporting life, supporting each other, always flowing… never a desert… always evolving… some taking the lead then others, all being themselves, expressing their own unique ways of being…

And what really is the difference between being ‘Empowered’ and being ‘Powerful’?¬† I will leave that for another time…