Your Journey to Being Whole… Attuning Your Life

Last time, I wrote about the Inner Work and how this coincides with the feeling that you wish to connect more deeply or authentically with the World, you wish to grow as a person and want a meaningful Life with real meaningful Relationships… this is You wanting to be You in your Life. I asked “Do Inner and Outer Agree?” and this relates to Attuning Your Inner and Outer Relationships. Life may have seemed ok but some relationships may have turned out to be unreliable, superficial, and/or unsupportive when life challenged you; some also may seem to have run their course and one day you realise they are no longer there or may start to conflict with other parts of your life… When Life gets Real, who will stand by you? Who will always be there? Who will actively support you? Who will grow with you? Who will judge you, ignore you, walk away…? Who is causing conflict in other areas of your life?… How do you decide what to do with all this?

Empowering your Life The more harmonious your Life, the more enjoyable and health-giving it will be. Harmony comes from attuning all aspects of your Life, your Inner World, Outer World and both together; in energy terms, empowering relationships form between existing relationships. With this comes a feeling of intimacy, of being part of something bigger than just you, a deeper and more expansive feeling of connection and truth.

Relationships have varying levels of intimacy and part of understanding about Relationship Attunement is realising you will have your own unique blend that empowers you and your Life; a unique blend of acquaintances, friends, family and more intimate partners and/or spouse… and also activities such as work, hobbies, passions, ideologies… and as I write this… the blend probably also includes the challenges you need to become Whole, become You in your Life! 🙂 …sooo much to attune, so much to learn, so how?…

Face your Life with Honesty The fastest most direct route to Wholeness is to be as honest with yourself as possible about how you feel in every moment. This is Mindfulness. This is being Authentic. This is You being You. You may not always understand how you feel or why but acknowledging it empowers your Self-Awareness. We cannot process our Whole Energy all at once because we have grown and adapted over time and generations and have built up ways of coping, ways of tolerating or avoiding difficult feelings and situations so that we can continue living our lives, ways that are disrupting the clarity of the deeper levels of attunement. We can only base our decisions and shape our lives on what we know and understand but being aware that you need to learn more, to become more of who you are rather than what the world says you are, is another huge shift in Intention. Be aware of that inner feeling of anxiety… Intend to resolve it… Follow your intuition… Learn, Attune and Heal…
Why live a life that is not yours?

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 >  Realisation

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 >  Intention – Non-Interference  

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 >  The Healing Journey

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Your Journey to Being Whole… The Inner Work

This is the seventh in this Series where I am sharing some of the key realisations I have had on my own Journey to feeling more complete. The first steps to becoming Whole, to having a life which you love,which nurtures and fulfills you, are those that empower your personal space, help you feel safer and more able to make decisions that are right for you. This learning grows with you as you continue on your Journey into Relationship Dynamics when life is not just about you and your security but is about you being involved in the World. Difficulties here may have been the reason you became vulnerable in the first place or you may just have got to a point in your life where you feel empty or disappointed and cannot work out what to do next.

The Outer Journey  So far I have written about Realisations and Intentions and then how you can choose and have every right to behave in an empowering way in your relationships with others. You may begin to see your life becoming more positive, more supported… but still there may be things that upset you, that make you feel anxious or depressed, situations that you still cannot deal with very well… There comes a point on your Journey to being Whole when an Inner Map starts to form…

The Inner Work begins…When you want to connect more deeply with the world, when you want your relationships to feel more real, when you want to put more of yourself into your life and nothing in your outer life seems to help, work begins on your Inner Map, the map of your Inner Self and how your Conscious Self relates to that. This becomes part of your Whole Journey.

Inner-OuterHealing Events in your Conscious Life may begin to relate to subconscious healing activity and may challenge who you think you are. When you relate more deeply to yourself, you may realise not only where you want life to change but also that you begin to feel different. You may feel more relaxed and more intuitive… life will naturally begin to feel more harmonious 🙂

Becoming Whole We can become shaped by our experiences and lose who we truly are within. Our lives can become full of routine behaviour patterns learned from others or socially accepted / expected responses to circumstances. We can lose our ability to see the bigger picture driving our experience, to be empathic and truly connect with others but more importantly to be in a relationship with ourselves that is supportive and loving. Only when you can truly be yourself can you truly be yourself with others. When you set your Intention to become Whole, your Journey will bring you the necessary challenges… Why live a life unfulfilled? …

… Previous in this Series ‘Your Journey to Being Whole…’

 >  Introduction

 >  Realisation

 >  Intention – Non-Judgement

 >  Intention – Non-Interference  

 >  Intention – Empowering Relationships

 >  The Healing Journey

Your Journey to Being Whole…… “Intention”

In this the third article about Wholeness, I am introducing ‘Intention’ and how my understanding of this has changed during my Journey over the last decade or so…
INTENTION is traditionally defined as: (1) A thing intended; an aim or plan, or (2) Your desire for (or to do) something. On first thinking about how to explain it here to you, I considered Intention to be about achieving a particular Goal as in (1) above or a Motivation as in (2) but when I thought more, neither of these really describe what Intention has been for me. Intention for me has been a ‘How-to’… HOW do I reach my Goal rather than what the Goal is… HOW do I carry out my Plan rather than what is driving me… HOW do I want to achieve something that really matters to me… So it has been more about the character of the Journey than the actual nuts and bolts and details… WHAT is the HEALTHIEST way? And this Idea of Intention has in itself had its own learning curve – a number of Realisations along the way that changed and expanded how I worked with Energy… I stepped forward rather than going round another loop leading to the same outcome. So what were these Realisations about Intention?… The first…

GOOD VS BAD – Moving Beyond Judgement ‘Highest Good’ is a well-known philosophy for spiritual growth; surely we all want a life which is good… but who decides what is good? If I think something is good and you think it is bad, who is right? And if I stop doing something that I really enjoy because others think it is bad, how do I deal with that inside? Guilt? Shame? Blame? Suppression? Is there something you do that you think is good and it hurts someone else, is that still good? Do you consider yourself Bad but think that’s a good way to be or vice versa? Labelling something Good or Bad is an opinion, a judgement, based on an individual’s or a society’s belief systems. Healing-wise I worked with Highest Good for about a decade, but then I began to see ‘Bad Energy’ building up like a blockage in a pipe… any more and it would explode. The Highest Good Intent was somehow stopping me face the ‘Bad Energy’… it felt unresolved… I realised that I needed to include this ‘bad’ in my healing protocols and began using the Highest Way Intent. In just realising this idea, I saw how it freed up my Energy, my Life and I felt more complete.
The Power of Non-Judgement Difficult challenges that occur in our lives can help us grow; it is not really about the other person but is about us learning to deal with a situation in a way that works and improves our own life and health, in a way that achieves resolution and peace within. I am only sharing my experience here and to me the reassuring aspect of holistic self-development work is that… ‘the proof of the pudding is in the eating’ 🙂 When your Energy heals and updates, your life does the same, things just gradually improve and move forward. Learn from your challenges… become more Whole. More on Intention next issue 🙂

… Previous in this Series ‘Your Journey to Being Whole…’

>  Introduction

>  Realisation

Interested in support for your Journey? In association with the South Gloucestershire Wellbeing College , my new project for 2018 is about developing a FREE local Monthly Group ‘Your Healing Space’, which introduces and supports your first steps to Wholeness.  So if you are interested in holistic support for your Journey,  click links to find out more 🙂

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Being at One… Will that Solve All your Problems??…

Last month I talked about being Centred and that this is key to life becoming more enjoyable and easier; inspiring synchronicities occur without any apparent effort on your part… you begin to become more in tune with your surroundings and, rather than being overwhelmed with stress and chasing or running from certain situations or life in general, you begin to respond rather than react… stress drops away… that elusive Christmas present jumps out at you! This feeling of Flowing with Life is called ‘Being at One’.

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‘Being at One’…
When you develop who you are, whatever skill you choose to learn, you go through a process of ‘paddling against the current’… learning new information which may conflict with what you know or have experienced already but once you are able to put it into a form you understand, you stop falling off the wave so much, your confidence increases and you ‘learn to balance’, be Centred, and go with the flow more… when you start to enjoy the ride, you will have Become ONE with the Ocean… 🙂
The extent to which your Life Flows will depend on how much of your Whole Energy Being is involved. This feeling of Flow, of ONE-ness, may be momentary. As you develop more of your Being, you may need to repeat this process many times but gradually the Flow remains for longer and becomes more resilient; Life’s ups and downs show you where you are still paddling, or learning to balance… Some of you may still need to ask “Where is the Ocean?”, “What kind of board suits me?”, “Am I using someone else’s board?… I really want my own!”…
‘Being at One’… Is that the Answer to Everything? As usual, there is always further learning and understanding… Having attained ONE-ness, your Life starts to flow but this may not bring you peace and fulfillment?! ONE-ness can be experienced in two ways…
SURRENDER to the Flow or SHAPE it?  In the Past, there was a common accepted culturally-led life path: how relationships played out, when we got married, how many children, getting a job or career for life, how you worship, what was expected and acceptable behaviour… we had surrendered into the norm, the ONE-ness of our Societies. What has happened in recent times is that there is a realisation that we can actually SHAPE our lives; we can walk our own path… just being part of the flow is not enough… We are still learning how we do that and still have a coherent society, a coherent harmonious World. The weight of water in our inherited waves is huge and becoming not only ONE with the Ocean but actually working with it harmoniously and joyously seems a mammoth task… but it is possible! Holistic Self-Development supports and guides this Journey – your Whole Being is part of the process… We can all not only learn to ride the wave but also eventually Carve our own Way through the Tube!!

Let’s Dooooo This! 😀